For most of us, our friends are among the most important people in our lives. For some, they're chosen family: the people who show up, who know everything, who would be on the other end of that phone call if something went wrong. And yet we rarely think about what it means to love someone that much and say nothing while they go unprotected.

You've raised it before. Your spouse keeps saying "not now." But every week that passes without a plan is a week your family's future depends on chance instead of intention. Here's what to do when you're not on the same page, and what you can start doing today.